I wish somebody loved me so much they would sacrifice anything and fight hard to be with me and make me happy…not like I’m not worth the effort. I want to be special, not just somebody. I don’t know if I will ever be able to forgive you for making me fight for something you should have fought for. I don’t think I will ever be able to forgive the fact that you’ve dismissed it as too much effort to rectify this. Just being with me does not make things ok and will not ever make things ok. Every little mistake you make is worse because you never ever tried to make it ok. How do you make it ok? That’s your problem. I won’t figure it out for you. But I can no longer make an effort where you have made none.
If you think about what is happening at this very moment in your life, separate from the very next moment or the moment before, I believe you can find peace. A lot of negative emotions come from regret or sadness about something in the past or worry and dread about something in the future, be it an hour or a minute away. But I think if you really thought through your days and focused more on the moment, you would find that those moments of what one would describe as struggle are few. In fact, more suffering or discomfort is derived from anticipation of something negative occurring, which is mightily counterproductive and usually brings about a negative result.
Every time I happen to switch onto “One Tree Hill” for a minute or so, there is some sad or inspirational soundtrack, and a sad or inspirational voice-over.
Relationships are forever. They are eternal. Not just permanent in this lifetime. Once you establish a relationship, it is an eternal relationship. What holds bad things in your life is always your attention to those bad things, always.
Aaaw, he cried.
Some months I feel I hardly know a thing, and I’m always pressed to make the deadline for this column. This time around, in honor of our tribute to the subject, I looked back and came up with my all-time top 20.
. What you put out comes back all the time, no matter what. (This is my creed.)
2. You define your own life. Don’t let other people write your script.
3. Whatever someone did to you in the past has no power over the present. Only you give it power.
4. When people show you who they are, believe them the first time. (A lesson from Maya Angelou.)
5. Worrying is wasted time. Use the same energy for doing something about whatever worries you.
6. What you believe has more power than what you dream or wish or hope for. You become what you believe.
7. If the only prayer you ever say is thank you, that will be enough. (From the German theologian and humanist Meister Eckhart.)
8. The happiness you feel is in direct proportion to the love you give.
9. Failure is a signpost to turn you in another direction.
10. If you make a choice that goes against what everyone else thinks, the world will not fall apart.
11. Trust your instincts. Intuition doesn’t lie.
12. Love yourself and then learn to extend that love to others in every encounter.
13. Let passion drive your profession.
14. Find a way to get paid for doing what you love. Then every paycheck will be a bonus.
15. Love doesn’t hurt. It feels really good.
16. Every day brings a chance to start over.
17. Being a mother is the hardest job on earth. Women everywhere must declare it so.
18. Doubt means don’t. Don’t move. Don’t answer. Don’t rush forward.
19. When you don’t know what to do, get still. The answer will come.
20. “Trouble don’t last always.” (A line from a Negro spiritual, which calls to mind another favorite: This, too, shall pass.)
We can struggle, or we can surrender. Surrender is a frightening word for some people, because it might be interpreted as passivity, or timidity. Surrender means wisely accommodating ourselves to what is beyond our control. Getting old, getting sick, dying, losing what is dear to us…is beyond our control. I can either be frightened of life and mad at life—or not. I can be disappointed and still not be mad.
Pair return to bring the Da Vinci Code writer’s latest thriller to the screen.
I’m not surprised they are skipping “The Lost Symbol”. I thought that book didn’t follow in the true spirit of the series and you could tell Dan Brown wasn’t totally into it.
Looking forward to this film.
I wonder how many people sit down at their computer and imagine themselves to be writers. I wonder how many people hope to one day “write”. That’s the really silly thing about me. If I had to tell you my dream job, it’d be that I want to be a writer. I imagine myself in a spacious library, my desk overlooking a spacious property lined with trees. It’s always Fall in this particular fantasy, and it suggests that I’m already a successful writer, on account of the big house and all. Therefore I don’t just want to be a writer. I want to be a successful writer. That’s a tall order for someone who hasn’t really written more than a few short stories here and there. And I wouldn’t even count those.
But I want to write. I want to write a novel. I want to write fantasy novels. I want to write romance novels. I want to write detective stories. I think. I guess everyone starts somewhere. I think the reason I haven’t delved into even practicing writing is because I don’t want to kill my dream by seeing how terrible I am. On top of that I have confidence issues from here to the moon, and very high expectations of myself. That really is a great combination for creativity flow.
I do love to read. A lot of people like to read. But a lot of people don’t ever read, so it is still a quality I am proud of.
Books fulfil you in a wonderful way. I will give you an example. I used to love romance novels. Even in books of different genres, I would latch onto the one romantic relationship in the book. Apparently all women do. However, once I fell in love, these romantic novels no longer seemed to interest me, and the excitement of reading them was lost. But while I didn’t have romance in my own life, reading these books really helped. I wasn’t starved for romance, but at the same time I learned lessons that many only acquire through the experience and possible failure of a relationship.
Books do teach, if you let them. I remember reading about a study done suggesting that the reader identifies with the protagonist of a novel and goes out in real life and acts almost in accordance with the protagonist’s personality. I think that’s very interesting. It really does show how much of an impact a book can have. Of course, it does depend on how receptive the reader is. Sometimes people are so closed-minded that nothing is absorbed. Then again, that’s not always necessarily a bad thing, since not all books can be trusted. Books are written by people, and people most certainly can’t always be trusted.
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